Softening - a Soft Feedism Resource

Welcome!

This is my collection of resources and information related to feedism! Being a fetish focused site, this is an adult (18+) only space.

This is my site, so I will focus on stuff I'm interested in, such as gaining, stuffing, queer/trans feedism, bears, and fat acceptance. You won't find many resources specific to BBWs, straight feedees/feeders, or content creators.

Visit my about page to learn more about me and my preferences ;3

Latest Update

Jan 12, 2025
Added feedism vs feederism explanation to homepage, fixed image sizing, fixed links on not found page, added a few new links to link page!

What is Feedism?

In case you don't already know, feedism is a broad term for fetishes/kinks involving sexual attraction to:

There are more specific senarios, but those are the basics. If this content doesn't interest you, hit the back button and find something you do like ❤

Check out the glossary for common terms found in feedism spaces.

Feedism or Feederism?

Feederism is the older, more common term. Feedism was coined to take the emphasis away from feeders, making the term more neutral in regards to feedees and feeders. The context here is that in the larger straight feedism community, there is a problem with male feeders acting entitled to female feedees bodies/time/content. I tend to use "feedism" for this reason, but it means the same thing, and I hold nothing against those who use "feederism".

(will add the source of who coined "feedism")

What is Soft Feedism?

Feedism can sometimes get a little heavy with stuff like force feeding and humiliation, and while these things aren't bad when consentual, some people like a more gentle approach. Soft feedists regard weight gain as a reflection of love and care or recovery.

Many feedists repurpose and reclaim fatphobic language/ideas (fatty, pig, obese, ruined body, etc) by eroticising them, using them for pleasure rather than hurt, however, soft feedists tend to aviod such language even within a kink context, not wanting to experience more fatphobia ontop of that in everyday life.

This site embraces the idea of weight gain being a reflection of love and healing, and also aims to challenge genuine fatphobic beliefs within the community, though I am not exclusively into soft feedism, as I do enjoy teasing and fatphobic tropes within the kink context.

Plans

This site is a work in progress, I have a lot of pages planned! Here's some ideas:

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